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My marriage is running on fumes

Roommate energy. Scorekeeping. Sex or conversation as a negotiation. You are sharper at work than at home.

Diagnosis

Marriage dies of leftover attention. You gave the best hours to the job and brought the scraps home, then wondered why the house went quiet. Love is a standard you keep when you are tired, not a feeling you wait to return.

Protocol

  1. 1Name the actual injury in one sentence. No court case. No history lecture.
  2. 2Put a protected block on the calendar this week that is only for the two of you. Phones down.
  3. 3Repair one small unkept promise before you attempt a big talk.

The standard: Your spouse gets a first-string version of you, not the leftover.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Ephesians 5:25