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I am raising soft kids by accident

You rescue fast. They cannot tolerate boredom, risk, or a no.

Diagnosis

Love that removes all friction produces fragility. Your job is not to build a padded room. It is to build a human who can carry weight and tell the truth.

Protocol

  1. 1Stop one rescue this week that they could have handled.
  2. 2Give an age-appropriate hard thing with a real standard and a real finish line.
  3. 3Model the standard. They will not become what you post. They will become what you practice.

The standard: Fewer rescues. More supervised difficulty. Your example louder than your lecture.

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace.

Hebrews 12:11